There’s a reason that I make goals instead of resolutions on New Year’s. The reason is that with resolutions, if you slip up, you’re inclined to give up – “oh well, guess I didn’t keep it, better luck next year.” But with goals, you’re not expected to be perfect right away. Goals are something you strive for, work toward, and continue trying to reach, despite setbacks.
Overall I’ve been making great progress toward my cleaning goal (though once grad school starts tomorrow, I expect that progress to slow, unfortunately). I haven’t really made any progress in my financial goal (though I did just get another very-part-time library job, so that may help). I have been doing some serious soul-searching regarding my businesses, with some possible decisions, though I keep going back and forth. But my biggest hang-up are the goals that involve my kids.
I started right in on the daily holidays. We “celebrated” some quirky holidays, and the kids seemed interested. Then I ran into a tough day, which I didn’t know how to celebrate, and things went downhill. What I’ve learned in this process is that I was treating it too much like an item on my to do list. This was supposed to be fun, but instead I was just acting like “ok, what can we do to celebrate this day so we can say we celebrated it.” Instead, I’m going to do a bit more planning (we plan ahead for big holidays, why not the little ones?) and get the kids involved in the planning, too. This will make it less of a checklist item and more of a fun family activity.
With regards to the other kids’ goals, progress has been slow. I’ve been trying to encourage my kids to be more self-sufficient (having them get their own breakfast, for example), but there’s a long way to go. I know I’ve seen articles and such that discuss age-appropriate chores for kids, but I’m going to have to do some searching to dig them up (if anyone has any, please let me know!). I do want to give them chores, but I admit that one of my hesitations has been the current condition of our house. As that gets better, hopefully the responsibilities issue will become easier. Only time will tell.
I’m still remaining positive for the year, and I’m still confident that I am moving in the right direction. Things never go as quickly as I would like them to, but I can honestly say I can see the progress I’ve made thus far in the house, and it is encouraging. May the progress continue!
What are your goals for the year? How are they coming along?