Happy New Year! We have a brand-spanking-new year ahead of us, full of possibilities. What will your year hold?
I have decided that this is my year to tie up loose ends and get things in motion for my year of new beginnings in 2021. This will be my year of preparation, of transition, of setting up my future. That being said, here are my goals for this year:
- Establish new routines and habits with my kids. This will include:
- Having more fun together. To this end I have started celebrating every day with my kids. I’m taking all the little national and quirky holidays and finding a way to incorporate at least one every day. So far we’ve celebrated Science Fiction Day and Cream Puff Day, Drinking Straw Day and Chocolate Covered Cherry Day, and Spaghetti Day. So far the celebrating hasn’t been very exciting, my son Avery has already started to ask what the holiday is each day, so I’ll take that as a promising step!
- Creating responsibility charts for each child and determining appropriate chores for each of them. My kids are capable of more than they think they are, but they have gotten into a habit of expecting me (or Nana) to do everything for them. Everything I have read has indicated that having responsibilities and chores is good for kids, so that, combined with the simple fact that I don’t want to do everything for them, is pushing me to finally set up some responsibility charts.
- Establishing expectations and a system of positive consequences so there’s less yelling and more good behavior. They’re kids, so I don’t expect perfection, but Avery, especially, has struggled with ongoing challenging behavior. I’m hoping the responsibilities will help, but in addition I need to figure out a way to get him motivated to behave better. Not rewards, necessarily, but a way to see positive consequences for good behavior. The plan for this goal is definitely a work in progress.
- Clean and organize my house! This has been on my goals list for a while now, but this year I’m making it happen. I’ve already started, and, while progress has not been quick, it has been steady. I’m planning to keep it up so my home is comfortable, livable, and enjoyable. I expect it to take a while! Hopefully by the time the year is coming to a close I can say I’ve finally checked this one off.
- Finish grad school. I am halfway through my coursework, and, if all goes according to plan, I will be graduating in December. At the same time, my part-time library job is giving me valuable experience, putting me in a good position to find a full-time job after graduation.
- Get my finances in order. I unfortunately have considerable debt, and grad school has only been adding to it. So this year my goal is to pay off as much as possible, then consolidate the rest to get it paid off in a timely manner. (My long-term goal, if I’m being very ambitious, is to be completely debt-free by the time I’m 50 – just in time for Avery to start college!)
- Figure out my businesses. I have decided that this year I will be making some big decisions about my businesses. It is very possible – likely, even, that I will close one or both of my businesses this year. But more on that as I do more soul-searching and determine what exactly it is I want. I’m not good at letting things go!
Like I said: lots of odds and ends to get myself and my kids in a good position for a fresh start next year. This is going to be a full, busy year, but I truly believe I am in the right mindset to make it happen.
Here’s to a great year!
What are some of your goals this year? How do you plan to reach them?