Trial and Error

Wouldn’t it be great if you could have a problem, feel determined to fix it, and the answer would just come to you? I’m not asking for the problems to just disappear; I just want to know how to solve them. Sure, I can come up with ideas, but how can I know what will actually work? How do I know which ideas to throw myself into so I don’t waste my time on all the ideas that won’t work?I know there’s no magic answer. We have to evaluate the situation, use our past experiences, and try to determine the most likely course of action. It’s the same for finances, dealing with the kids’ behavior, getting healthy…it’s hard work. But they say that anything worth having is.So in my current positions, how do I proceed? I mentioned Friday that our financial status is less than favorable. I mentioned in the post before that how I need to take care of myself and my health. And, though it looked like it was getting better there for a bit, we’re starting to have issues with Avery’s behavior again, so I have that to worry about, too. What do I do?Since there are no magic answers, I’m still trying to figure that out. With regards to finances, I’ve been attempting the Usborne stuff, though I’ve been less successful than I would like. I’m having difficulty booking parties and such, though I do have 3 vendor events coming up that I’m hoping will help. The problem is: the main reason I signed up with Usborne wasn’t to boost my income through home and online parties; it was to become an educational consultant and work with schools and libraries. That is what I really want to do. If I can make income working with individuals, I have no problem with that. But I really wanted to work in the education markets. Shortly before I started, however, the company switched over to a completely new system. While this system will help in the long term with their crazy growth over the last year or so, they’re still working out the kinks. And, as a result, they’re not taking applications yet for educational consultants. I hope that changes soon! I’m doing what I can in the meantime, familiarizing myself with the products and selling what I can, but I must admit I’m struggling. I’m still hopeful, though! Since I’m not bringing in the income very quickly, though, I’m going to have to find other ways. And that’s where I’m stuck. While I’ve sold some stuff on eBay, it’s a lot of work for not a lot of income. I don’t have high-end items. I know I have some things to bring to a consignment shop, but that’s not guaranteed income, either. Beyond that I don’t really have any feasible ideas. I’m going to have to keep brainstorming.With regards to my health, I’ve been more aware of what I’m consuming (or not consuming), but not much has changed since that post, either. The problem is, in part, finances, as money is particularly tight right now, meaning I don’t have money to run out and buy salad fixins, piles of Greek yogurt, a variety of fresh fruit, etc. I’m doing what I can with what we’ve got, which is less than ideal. Exercise is still limited due to the mess in the basement, though I’m making small bits of progress in the cleaning. Who knows? Maybe I can start something tonight. It’s a goal. One thing I can do — and haven’t been — is focus on my water intake. I’m still slacking in that, and there’s no real excuse. It doesn’t really cost any more to drink more. I’m just being lazy. I need to get back into it!And, with regards to Avery, I’m at a loss. The one thing I’ve thought about is looking into positive parenting techniques. Avery can often be a good boy, especially when he’s in a good mood. When he hears the word “no,” though, it can sometimes lead to a tantrum. And he struggles with listening, especially if we tell him not to do something. But I’ve heard about parenting techniques that focus on “yes” rather than “no.” From what I gather, it focuses more on redirection, positive reinforcement, and incentives, rather than punishment and taking things away. I have to look more into it and see if it would work. We met with a doctor to discuss the possibility of Avery having ADHD, and, while it is certainly a possibility, unless we want to jump to medication (which isn’t necessary at this point), the only effective course of treatment is behavior modification. And that means we have to find a way of discipline and encouragement that helps him be the best little boy he can be. It’s a process, and it will involve trial and error, which we’ve been doing anyway. We just have yet to find a process that works most of the time!I have my work cut out for me. I’m still trying, experimenting, figuring things out. I just hope something finally clicks one of these days! It would be nice to catch a break. Until then I’ll just keep at it.


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